Consent 101

Youth OUTright

Setting: Kai and Erin are watching a movie together.

Graphic with example of consent check ins: Kai asks “Can I put my arm around you?” Aerin responds, “Yes, please!”

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The 5 Elements of Consent

AFFIRMATIVE

Only “Yes” means yes and a coerced yes, isn’t a yes

ENTHUSIASTIC

Such as “Yes!” “Heck Yeah!” “Yes, Please!” “Oh Yes!” “Yes I like that!”
A hesitant yes, such as “well, ok,” or “I guess if you want to” isn’t enthusiastic and therefore not consensual. Remember to keep tone of voice and body language in mind. Make sure their tone and body language is enthusiastic too.

EXPLICIT

Specific, such as “Can I _____ with your _____.”

ONGOING

Continuous checking in with your partner or friends to make sure they are still comfortable with whatever you may be doing.

SOBER

No drugs, alcohol or sleeping medication has been consumed.

If one person is impaired, they are unable to give consent of any kind.